“When it comes to a child’s sense of family, what divorce breaks apart, strong co-parenting rebuilds.”
Divorce signals the end of an intimate partnership for adults, but not the end of family for children. Divorce requires a family restructuring that will disrupt, but doesn’t need to disadvantage a child. When parents participate in respectful, constructive co-parenting, the new two-home family offers children a chance to enjoy their one-and-only childhood with parents working together living apart.
Divorce and Co-Parent Coaching offers guidance through the transition from spouses/partners to co-parents. Whether you’ve been married, lived together or simply have a child you want to raise as co-parents, learning to work together in the best interest of your child (click for video) is the purview of the co-parent coach. Most common use of co-parent coaching is in developing a parenting plan. However, many parents access the guidance of a co-parent coach for implementing their parenting plan after divorce/separation, reducing conflict, and developing practices and protocols that work in two-home families. Co-parents often seek guidance from a co-parenting coach when planning to introduce a new romantic partner to their children and similar significant family events.
Coaching whether through divorce or for co-parenting involves collaborating, exploring options, mediating, educating, and receiving on-going support for your changing family. Effective coaching sets a foundation for successful transitions, which can lead to healthy, thriving children, teens and adults alike. If everyone is going to be healthy, then everyone matters. So, you may want to consider:
- Engaging an experienced guide through divorcing and into co-parenting.
Building strategies to support your children through divorce/separation, strengthening your self-care, and setting intentions for your co-parenting relationship and two-home family.
- Starting off right: “How will you tell the kids”?
Starting off on the right foot for this major family transition.
- Developing a residential schedule / parenting plan.
Making agreements that can be used in preparation for a legal parenting plan.
- Considering the Collaborative Divorce or mediation process for your divorce.
Finding a non-adversarial, respectful alternative to “fighting” through divorce.
- Creating a two-home family.
Setting up a two-home family; creating a secure home base for your children.
- Implementing your parenting plan post-divorce/separation.
Developing practices and protocols that work to strengthen co-parenting.
- Resolving disputes, building decision-making skills.
Specializing in family dispute resolution for your unique circumstances.
The question isn’t, “Will we co-parent?” The question is, “How skillfully will we co-parent?” With a tested “here’s how” approach, “The Co-Parenting Handbook” helps parents confidently take on the challenges of raising children in two homes. For the audio version of the first edition visit “The Co-Parents’ Handbook”.